How to NOT say sorry

150216 AlphubelI’m back!

I did not send my last scheduled email

There are various ways to deal with such a situation – Here’s one you might not have heard of before:

A dear mentor of mine once said that saying sorry doesn’t make things better – unless you’re committed to never let it happen again.

Makes sense.

Here’s why:

The fact is – I chose a different priority.

Now, I could apologise, say sorry for missing a promise I made.

But does this bring the email back? No.

Would it happen again, in a similar situation? Probably.

Unless I change – and learn not to get so bloody obsessed about finishing something I feel stressed about.

So, saying sorry, without actually changing, has no point really.

I know, it’s not the norm.

Yet we hear many sorrys – and nothing changes.

People continue the same way.

So why to they do it?

Let’s look at an example:

When we’re late for something it’s so easy to say: “Sorry, I’m late…”

Just listen to it – what happens in you if someone says this?

You’ll probably say something like: “Don’t worry, it’s ok”

The other person just put you in power.

That’s what most sorrys are about – a wish to be told that we’re ok.

It’s a confidence issue.

Now, let’s look at another way of dealing with being late.

Imagine somebody arrives late and says: “Finally, I made it!”

How does that make you feel? You probably enjoy that this person has made to effort to come.

He took responsibility for his actions.

He effectively acknowledges that he’s late… but he made it.

Of course, if you’re really sorry about something you’ve done, or not done, and you’re serious about changing it, then by all mean say ‘sorry’.

And take steps to change.

If this resonates with you and you do actually feel you need to change, and want to develop confidence, get in touch with me.

You might be interested in my leadership program.

I can help you be the leader of your life.