The courage to help – and move on

Outback townA frontier town.

Trauma in the indigenous population from 150 years of colonisation.

An  industry of helpers, working for a ‘good cause’ – and loving the rawness of the land, the heart-fulness of the indigenous people.

However, there is a problem – if they do their job effectively, their clients will get well and the need for their help would evaporate.

They would have to leave the country and people that they love, because there is hardly any other work out there.

A conflicted town with conflicted people on all levels.

You can find this dynamic elsewhere, not just in a frontier town.

Consider psychologists, psychiatrists, the medical profession, health practitioners, coaches, all are exposed to the danger of having an income only when their clients are unwell.

The longer the problem lasts, the better the income. Psychoanalysis is a prominent example.

It takes courage for the practitioner to refrain from keeping a client longer than  is absolutely necessary.

I find that meditation, letting go of ‘ownership’ of the desired outcome (which is the client’s anyway) and coming from the heart, helps me maintain the courage to be different.

And of course there are Systemic Constellations and the solution-focused approach, a couple of my tools.

Both these processes have been developed to ensure the client is in charge at all times.

I have proof that this is indeed true, such as this testimonial.

With just one session, over Skype, she helped me discover why I have allowed myself to be bullied by others (often subliminally) for almost my whole life. The results have been life changing to say the least.

Terrie Anderson

VP Asia Pacific Sales – global IT vendor

So, if you are in a similar conflicted situation, I can show you how to stay out of the way while your clients find their own healing.