Good and bad things, and how we can heal and learn from them – part 2

After yesterdays good things, let’s have a look at the other side.

Bad things:

They too need to be dealt with – and acknowledged for what they were.

Otherwise these memories stay in our subconscious mind and keep on running the show.

Rather than staying in bitterness or hate, a learning can be found, and I’ll show you how.

Ask yourself these questions:

  • How did I manage to survive this bad thing?
  • What exactly did I do that helped me come out at the other end successfully?
  • What skills did I learn there?

When you find an answer to any of these questions, congratulate yourself.

In that way you can move on, and become a stronger person.

Sometimes bad things from the past are really bad and need to be healed before you can move on.

One example of how that healing can happen is in the movie ‘The Railway Man’ which was based on an autobiography.

A man, tortured  by the Japanese in the second world war, returns to the scene to confront one of his captors who had escaped prosecution as a war criminal.

This journey transformed him and his life.
Sometimes, when we need healing, we can’t do it alone.

The ‘railway man’ had the support of his wife and a close friend.

Help has a habit of showing up unexpectedly. All you have to do is recognise the offer.

Offers of help are everywhere, sometimes in the most unlikely places.

The Railway Man was a dramatic story and his was an intense and confrontational way to find healing.

It does not need to be that way.

There are other, non-confrontational ways to achieve healing. Systemic Constellations are one such form of help.

It may or may not be right for you. That doesn’t matter: what matters is that if some form of help is what you need, you allow it into your life.